Thursday, December 23, 2010
Santa and a Sleepover
No snow on this trip, but of course it came in as we left! We caught snow flurries driving back and made it a fun ride home. I also caught grandma's cold she had brought along on our trip. Shouldn't have shared the trail mix during the drive. I not only got some of her dried fruit but a nasty cough that has now taken over my larynx.
Which brings me to Stink's celebration in honor of my first born growing one year older. He is a bright 8 years old today. I threw a Christmas Slumber Party for him and his friends this year. We had so... much... fun!!! Some helping hands and I decorated the house with the Christmas season in mind and braced ourselves. 14 boys were included which is more testosterone than I have ever had to coordinate with. Just when I thought I was completely nuts this time, I realized how great boys are. They truly are. Now I have nothing to compare this to but it seems to me the more little boys, the merrier. I would like to say I am a great authority figure, but I think it was the games that held the faint peace together. The next day I found some great after party. The house smelt like grass and sweaty boys. Pizza cheese in the rug was the start, then toothpaste sludge on the wall. My slipper stuck to an area of the tile where I think some birthday punch found a landing spot. Then there's Benny who used the new nerf gun and decided that the hallway ceiling lamp was a great target. So as soon as all the guests leave in the am I hear a shatter and glass is everywhere. Can't go out without a bang, literally I guess. But it was all worth it... every ounce, serious. The cheese, paste and glass can be cleaned up in 10 minutes... but my sweet boy's birthday memories will last a lifetime. Stink told me something so-so special today. He says while we are outside, "Mom, everyday on my birthday it's so nice. It's beautiful." The ironic thing is that the last couple years it's been gloomy and rainy, but he's so happy it's in his mind and words "beautiful"... makes that mommy smile! Happy Birthday Love...
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Turkey Time
My turkey this year was a unique birdy perfect for the super swamped mom. Stink had a tournament game the day I made a feast of our own. So it was go-go-go just like any other day. I was really craving a day of just relaxing with my boys having nothing at all to do but be silly around the house and cook. I think my turkey sensed my desire and cooperated from then on. I had 15 minutes to prep my main dinner dish. I mixed a quick concoction, gave it a good seasoned rub, stuffed it with my usual and threw some things around our turkey for a touch of beauty and flavor before it plopped in the oven. It was my best yet... would have never expected that! It was a great dinner my boys and family enjoyed. Benny got to break the wishbone with Great Grandpa... such a sweet moment. He won and wishes came true.
I am reminded this day and often of how thankful we are, and how beautiful life is. I have happy, healthy, and rowdy boys... the two sparkles of my eyes. I am thankful for the true happiness and joy they bring- the deep loving connection we all have. I am thankful for the sisterhood in my friends, the guidance of my family, the growth in my career, and the people and lessons learned along the ways. Thanks to all...
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Dear Steve,
by Lewis Smedes
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Spiced Pumpkin
Pumpkin carving with Grandma, Uncles, baby B, and Auntie Jose. The boys were very different at their approach towards pumpkin carving this time around. Benny was very simple about his plans, determined to achieve them, and was decisive and patient about carrying them out. Stink chose the most complicated pumpkin carving design, did 5 minutes of work, and tried to get mom to finish the rest. They all turned out great, and in the name of fun.
Trick or treating was a night of friends, neighbor potluck food, conversation, great costumes, candy... and a butt rash. I won't disclose which boy this was but halfway through trick or treating I spot a funny walk and a facial grimace. "Mom, my butt hurts, really bad" says this dear boy. I watched as he tried to hide the funky face and keep up with the door to door but he broke down, and I carried home. My thanks goes to Desitin rapid relief for soothing a raw Halloween butt. This boy learned that night about the expense of wiping when he should, and doing a good job of it. At the end of the night when all was quiet and the sugar high has faded I got a "Mom, thank you so much for making my bottom all better." It was a Halloween save mom will always truly be remembered for.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Butterfly
I decided to make a switch in my career, it's been a night and day difference... literally. No more night shifts for me, this girls gone day. I decided this was much needed over a summer vacation when my body got to experience a sleep routine at night... and got to feel the energy/clarity/rest that was lacking from the past year and a half of nights. Too hard to go back at that point.
Butterflies are... so symbolic. Meaning some of soul, love and a new beginning in life after being in a state of entrapment. I remember of such a time when butterflies didn't fly, what an omen that day. Though now in these times I swear my soul is still the same, with more love in my spirit... here is my beginning... here is our start.
I was deliberately wary about the change I put my much loved children through. This was the time though. We eased out of that hard fog we were amidst. We needed that familiarity of our old home and the all that went with our life there... and taking time to say the bye we needed. So here we are and moved into a new home- out of the fog and entering into our clarity, still strong together as ever! That's a loving family. And might I add still with the people and surroundings we value and cherish so deep in our lives, so lucky we are.
During that fog a good friend of mine gave me a gift that said "Just when the catepillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly." Wink, wink. :)
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Our Old Girl
I remember when my Mom brought her home, I was still in school and she was just a few years old. She clung to me and I adopted her... stole her right from my mother. She knew where she belonged though, with me! She was my girl. We would go on walks alone together, trips to the dog park and I remember the very spot behind my legs she would snuggle up to every night. I loved dressing her up in shirts and Halloween costumes. I remember her chewing fetish that was short lived, but ended after a very expensive pair of shoes were targeted.
She's still my girl. She watched me grow into a woman and have babies... been through it all with me. She loves Benny and Stink just as much as me... protected them as infants to now, and let them tug and drag her around during the process.
Now it's different, but our love is still the same and strong. Last year we almost lost her to a tooth infection. Her eyesight is now gone and she will no longer walk up the stairs... but she wags her tail just the same when I come home as she did when she was a pup.
We celebrated her birthday this year with presents, "Pursie" party hats and moist food with a lit candle in it- which she about singed her whiskers on not seeing the flame.
My sister came over for the day with a mechanical baby, a life-like baby project for school. Pursie sat next to the baby carrier like she did when the boys were tiny, right back to protecting. The baby started to cry and she got up sniffing the baby and stood tall right next to it. She may be blind, old, stinky, and not the best guard dog... but she certainly tried her best to fulfill her doggy duty.
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Family
I felt I needed to touch on family tonight. Family is so very important... and family is different to everyone. We can't choose them, and if we could, whoever made the rule would be more than famous. Don't laugh! But- I don't want to choose my family. The family that I have, I love. They aren't perfect... by any means. We all have flaws and imperfections, that's the beauty of difference. The real "pretty" is the lessons. We learn from what we see, what we go through, and what we don't.
It isn't family that makes or breaks us... it's us and the decisions we make for ourselves and how we want to live our lives. I am thankful for my family, realizing now more than ever how thankful I am. Dysfunction is in every home to some degree and we all have no rights to judge. There isn't such a thing as a perfect person or the perfect family, and usually the ones that get that label just have things a little more hidden than others... It's all generally there and the same, just do a little digging.
Which comes to why I am so thankful. I have my Faith. I have wonderful and wise grand-parents who are supportive and full of guidance. I have parents and some siblings who have lifestyles that I have learned from. I have the best of friends to share the life that I have made and chosen for myself. That is my family... that I love dearly. Family is what you make it to be. We can't change the cards we are dealt, nor should we want to! You can overcome anything, no excuses to be who you want to be. I grew up with the good and the bad just as everyone does with or without a family. This has tailored me to be someone I am proud of. Though I'm not perfect, it's made the perfect recipe for... me.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
So Long, Summer...
Aaron and I took the boys to California and spent some time in Del Mar with my family. We stayed at a beachfront hotel... which is the way to go with kids I soon found out. It made hauling all the food, chairs, toys and umbrella pretty darn easy. Benny and Stink discovered "skim boards" this trip. They are thin pieces of wood similar to a skateboard without wheels that you throw down as the oncoming beach waves go back... skimming across the thin water on the sand. Uncle J-man was a great teacher. Oceanside dinner, sunset watching, and an early morning run along the coast were just icing on this trip. We spent a day at Legoland and checked out the newly added water park. My Arizona boys weren't that excited about it being the water park pro's they are, but they sure enjoyed it... We all did, all about 8 hours of it. Aaron drove us home after our long Legoland day... he earned the daddy-ready stamp, I don't know what else does. I think he was a better trooper than the experienced I at this! I do have a souvenir I would have liked to leave CA without. The wreaking stench of old cooler water that leaked out in the back of the car... smells like something died, which is what I thought. Nothing the good ol' carpet cleaner can't take care of but you better bet this will remind me to cap that water spout at the bottom of the cooler next time!
The boys were spoiled with the beach and all of California's goodies this summer. They deserved it. They went for another week in CA with their Dad after we returned home. So I took advantage of the time I had to myself, which is scarce. Hello Banner PTO! Aaron and I took a trip together to his hometown and then to Table Rock Lake with his family... Beautiful. Warm. Romantic. A great time I would have not wanted to spend with anyone else but my love. It was hard to leave that, but easy to return to my much missed little blondies and our home sweet home we have together.
Our summer was also filled with a trip to the zoo, water parks, pool days, play dates, lazy days, and snuggle moments.
Benny Button also had a birthday! My baby turned 6... so we celebrated it 6 times... Well is what it felt like anyway. Once in Arizona with all of Benny's little friends... in California with family... and the day at Legoland. Happy Birthday again baby boy!!
Dear Summer:
Thank you for your warm days, warmer moments, and free spirit. Can't wait to visit you again next year!
xoxo
Monday, July 5, 2010
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Lessons on a Father's Day
Benny's Love Note
I opened it up and had developed teary eyes to go with my smile before I squeezed his breakfast bagel out of him. As if he had a choice in keeping me but, I'm glad to know that if he did, he would. I love you too Benny. Heres to keepers!!
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Broken Heart
I have recognized my pattern in choosing men, and I have had quite the experience in dating them after my divorce. The alcoholic, the cheater, the married man, the work-a-holic, the liar. Remember that Nurse in me? That Nurse in me which makes me feel so good to fix things, to always make them right. Well, the only place that's good for is at my job... and that's where that is staying and going no further. It used to feel good to sacrifice all of me to try to make someone happy, even if that meant I didn't get what I needed out of life and relations. That was the old comfortable place of mine. I'm learning a new love for myself. I am still the giving, caring person I was who will do most anything for anyone I love and don't love... I will never change that. But- I've learned to get what I need in a real relationship and what I give in a relationship mirrored back at me. Anything less is goodbye.
Which comes to a special man that I want to write about... meet Aaron. I will never forget the moment I layed my eyes on that handsome man. We talked... for hours when we first met. The kind of conversation you crave and can't get enough of, something I never had with someone and always wanted. We dated for months... I can't tell you how happy this man made me in those months. I felt things for him I never felt with the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. It's no wonder... this time someone gave to me in a relationship. He gives to her what I give to him. Telling me how beautiful I am inside and out, the time he wanted with me and spent, cooking with me, reading with me, dancing in my kitchen to DMB with me, the lunches he packed before work for me, the CD's he made, the cards and flowers... the so much intimacy. I felt so close, closer to him than anyone yet. It was a good feeling. He will forever have a solid chunk of my heart for that. I needed that. I got to a place where I knew exactly what I wanted, and deserved. I found that in him. He valued me. Through all this he wanted to make a commitment to me and then meet my boys... oh how they loved him. He was so good for us.
I'm sad to say we aren't together anymore. But it's not the end of my happiness. Just a great start... and what a terrific first boyfriend. He is truly an amazing person to me. So here he is... the memories of us. He deserves a spot on my blog for those forever footprints he left in my heart and soul. Thank you for everything you know you did for me and my boys... and all you didn't know you did. Thank you for showing me I can love again, I can trust again. I love you for the you, you were to me...
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Summer Break Begins
I decided to take them to the Phoenix Zoo for our grand entrance into the summer. So, Thursday morning we all got up at 6 and were ready and at the zoo at 7 am when they opened... which is the only way to do it in this heat. It was so nice because it wasn't crowded yet and the animals were all out enjoying the weather. This was the first time we were at the zoo and saw every animal out! We saw a jaguar up close... Benny only a couple feet away in awe of how big the kitty's teeth were.
We toured over to the children's area where Benny met a turkey... who loved him. There they were: turkey to turkey. Benny ran back and forth outside of the cage while the turkey mimicked him, not losing sight of him.
We walked over to see more exhibits and animals where we came across the spider monkey. I decided that if S. Stink were an animal, this is the animal he would be. We laughed about it but the arms, legs and skinniness of this animal was like a bunch of Stink's in one cage playing around.
We found a fun water pad area after a train ride tour, where the boys were able to go down a water slide and play in the splash zone before we headed home.
Another ending treat was feeding the ducks. I brought a loaf of aging bread along to share with our feathered friends. Little did I know. We not only had ducks, but we also had birds, turtles, and fish. They were eating out of our hands too!!
We certainly filled up the rest of our day post zoo. We had a wonderful lunch, some summer buzz-haircuts for the boys, and basketball practice. Somewhere in there I squeezed in the gym and Chik fil A's family night. So by the time we got home we were all over-whooped.... in a very good way. It was surely a great summer day together!
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Mommy Facts Aloud
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Easter 2010
Easter egg coloring was a complete out for Stink this year, but Benny was all in full hearted... and this year he got the whole Easter Egg coloring table to himself, he loved it, naturally!
The Easter Bunny was so thoughtful this year that the boys got a Derek Jeter action figure and toy American Baseball league caps in the Easter baskets along with the 1/2 ton of candy... we still have... now compiled into a treat bowl. This lingering bowl of candy (especially the chocolate parts) has caused me some serious guilty feelings at the gym.
Now comes my favorite part of Easter... church on Easter Sunday... magnificent as always. It's what it's all about!! Those ties on my boys may have come close though. They get more handsome every year. It's a rule... a tie on Easter Sunday's always, always.
After service we came home, I put a tender chicken dish in the oven for a slow bake and the boys and I went for our Easter Egg Hunt. We did it with the neighbors, house hopping style. It was so much fun to watch, and fun play for the kids. Stink scoped out the eggs at our house before to get some strategy down so of course he stole the majority of the eggs when it came time to hunt at the Carlson home.
We got home, had a wonderful dinner, the three of us... snuggled and prayed thanks for our day. Just another wonderful Sunday.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Hiking Season: Closed
So, now to devour the wordage in the title of my blog posting, "closed". Yes, no more hikes for me/us this year. So a friend of mine and all of our boys went up for a short hike on a fun day of no school. S. Stink asks as he starts to become motionless in the back seat of the car drive headed to the mountain, "Mom, are there snakes out here?" In which I reply, " Yes of course, but they are hibernating honey." So then and there he makes it very clear he doesn't want to see one... at all, and becomes cautious but confident from moms reassurance. That starts our hike. We are headed in to our trail not even 5 minutes and ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch as us girls look over and 2 feet away from my friends foot was a coiled up rattlesnake "ch-ching" away ready to strike. So we scream in sync (as hard as we can) and I ran as fast as I think we both could. The boys turn around and look at their probably pale mothers with their wide eyes wondering what on this God made mountain was going on. Thankfully they were a smidgen ahead of us. That was certainly the end of that distance though... at least for Stink. He was glued to the hip of mom sorting through each bush on our path along the trail. That was another moment when I am thankful for my blackberry as I pulled up the list of what to do when bitten by a snake and the number for poison control... just in case. So that was enough, enough for me to say season closed.